How Can I Be Quick to Listen?
19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 21 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. James gives the antidote to anger, which leads to damaging and hurtful words. He says be quick to listen and slow to speak and slow to become angry. Why is "quick to listen" first? Because usually anger is reactive and we rarely take the time to go from our emotional reaction to staying in our head. As we are quick to listen, it gives us time to let anger subside and not act in a harsh a way. When we listen we can at least try to understand where the person is coming from and ask clarifying questions. Often major arguments and fights are over a miscommunication. This can especially happen from emails and Facebook. When we are not in fa...